Handling Rejection
During my high school days, I used to have this boyfriend. The package; tall, brown and handsome, polished English, high performing student, 2yrs older and a form ahead of me. Let’s call him A.
I also had a friend. Let’s call her Z. I met her through A. Z’s boyfriend and A were friends and in the same school so it once happened that, Z’s boyfriend wrote her mail, and A decided to send a “shoutout” to me. That’s how I got to know Z.
I was young, naive, the girl from ushagoo just coming to Nairobi solely for school. A and Z both resided in Nairobi and I kid you not, A and Z really hit high on their friendship; the regular meetups in Nairobi, the “Christian connection” they shared; hivyo ndivyo niliachwa guys.😂
Anytime things went wrong, A would come back; ati I’ve learnt my lessons, I’m sorry this was the devil, story mob tu but because I “loved” the guy, namsamehe tu. Now that I think of this, it’s funny😂
This continued throughout my high school life. If he wasn’t with Z, it was with another girl/woman.
Soon, I established that A had a type. He was after an achieving woman. All these ladies he dated, (as I later came to realize I was just there for keeps sake), were performers and cops in high school. The very things I was really struggling back in the day.🤦🏾♀️ ( Learn all about that in my second blog post: What I learnt: #MissingOut)
Anyone who really knows/knew me at that high school period of my life, may also know I was nowhere near good with academics. So, after completing fourth form, and the KCSE Results released, I obviously failed. Now guys, would there be any way on this earth A would even want to be associated with me?
I remember the period after results being released as the lowest point in my life. I went through depression for days, feeling that life had really denied me. I felt unwanted by the one person whose support I might have needed the most, I felt useless for going through 4 years of my life and coming out as nothing, no one. It got so bad that the only easy thought, way out, was suicide. And while this was truly the LOWEST point in my life, it was also the TURNING POINT in my life.
WHAT I LEARNT… REJECTION.
☆Rejection made me stronger – In high school, I lived wanting to be wanted, to be accepted and loved by the people I loved outside family. Being stronger meant deciding to love and put me first at all times as well as grow my mental strength.
☆Rejection made me realise that I was my own person – I couldn’t be all these other women A preferred. And accepting and learning to be okay with that was so fulfilling. It made me embrace my kind of woman and let her shine in her own skin. I wasn’t trying to be someone else to please another person.
☆Rejection was a redirection to the right purpose – I often see this quote that says, “Don’t question God for removing certain people in your life. He heard conversations that you couldn’t.” I have absolutely no doubt about this because for sure when I decided that I could get over A, and work on me, thing started changing for the better!
DO I STILL FACE REJECTION? Yes.
HOW DO I REACT TO THAT AND WHAT CAN YOU DO TO CONQUER REJECTION?
♡Know who are you. Love yourself, love who you are, believe in you. When you do, other people can’t easily put you down.
♡Stand for something – If you don’t stand for something, it’s TRUE you’ll fall for anything: including what you don’t deserve.
♡Don’t expect too much from people – Don’t give too much of yourself to people such that you expect them to do the same for you. You’d be shocked how people we think are closest to us can have the worst ways of tearing us down. Love people yes, but don’t let them take advantage of you for that.
♡Grow – Any kind of rejection I feel I’m going through, I always sit down and ask myself, why am I being rejected? Say it’s an interview, and I was rejected for lacking in some skill. That’s something I can go back to the drawing board and work on building, because it can be changed. For what you can change for the better from rejection, change it. If you can’t, then trust that the right people and opportunities will come your way.♥️
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