5 Elegant Habits that don’t require a loaded bank account (with two bonus tips you won’t find anywhere else on the internet!) 💎
In today’s fast-paced and materialistic world, where wealth and material possessions often grab the limelight, it is easy to overlook the significance of elegant habits that do not hinge on money or labels. While it is true that money and wealth may bring comfort and convenience, it is equally true that elegance is not a quality that can be bought or fabricated with superficial adornments. True elegance emanates from within and transcends beyond the realm of material accumulation. It is a reflection of one’s character, demeanor, and mindset. In this regard, the cultivation of elegant habits that do not depend on money or labels becomes an essential pursuit for those who seek to embody grace, sophistication, and authenticity in their everyday lives.
Elegance, in its purest form, is an intangible quality that radiates from an individual’s actions, words, and attitude. It is the culmination of a refined and cultivated persona, often unaffected by the fluctuating nature of material wealth. Furthermore, true elegance does not rely on the display of designer labels or extravagant possessions; instead, it is rooted in personal values, self-awareness, and a commitment to personal growth and refinement.
In this month’s blog post, I share with you 5 Habits I inculcate in my routine, that do not in any way cost me a dime, but still leave heads turning and spur conversation when I walk in, or out of a room. I have found that often, these are difficult habits, but have the greatest ROI when it comes to looking put and elegant. Here we go!
🔹🔹🔹 T A L K L E S S , L I S T E N M O R E 🔹🔹🔹
I’d say this is a tip that works well for me as I’m mostly introverted – but generally what I do is let people carry on a conversation when I meet them for the first time. I have found that people love to talk about themselves, especially when you create a comfortable environment for them. Observe people aggressively. The statements people make about themselves are often to try to create a particular impression…. You need to be an aggressive observer to pick up the impression they’re trying to create.
Aggressive observation means going after the big picture – weighing the impression people try to create, and converting them into usable perceptions. When I meet someone face-to-face, what I try to establish more than anything else is a comfort zone. From what I see and hear, I’m able to establish the boundaries I need to observe, which will best enable me to deal with that person.
Reading people is an elegant value that is highly under-estimated. It will help you deal with people of all kinds while still maintaining your individuality. Best of all, it will open more doors and opportunities than you could ever imagine. Be silent, listen and observe!
🔹🔹🔹 K N O W S T U F F 🔹🔹🔹
Being well-read on various topics enables you to engage in meaningful conversations with a diverse range of people. It allows you to contribute to discussions, share ideas, and connect with others on different subjects. Apart from whatever course it is you learnt in school, what other things interest you? It’s a great habit to identify these things, take a note of them and learn something new in these areas everyday.
I’ll give an example. I find I’m passionate about learning more about the stuff of life – love, money, careers, mentorship, etiquette, fashion, relationship building and business. I commit to learning something new in these areas every week. What has greatly helped is setting aside a time to learn and batch processes. By batching, what I mean is, for something like fashion, I’ve over time learnt what my signature style is (That’s right, most of my friends refer to me as the jumpsuit queen!), and what I’ll go doing over time is learning how to style latest jumpsuit trends. Since I love going out on events, I’ll then let my jumsuit supplier know once I see something interesting, tell her I’m looking for a particular design based off my research, and she’ll then bring this jumpsuit design to me in time for my event.
By learning something new about money, I’m able to make better decisions about how to make more money, or where to invest. Mentorship, I’m able to put myself in spaces where I have people pouring into me, and where I’m also pouring into others. Careers is more on career etiquette and branding. Business knowledge helps me learn how to better processes for my small business.
So what things interest you? They don’t have to be big things. Explore drawing and the arts, cooking, painting, singing, whatever it is that sets your soul on fire. Join communities, attend events and share ideas with like-minded people. At the least, there’s always YouTube Academy… so ditch the excuses!
🔹🔹🔹 U S E M O N O T O N E S 🔹🔹🔹
Speaking in a monotone can help maintain a neutral and objective tone, which can be essential in professional or educational settings where impartiality is necessary. It can avoid potential misunderstandings caused by emotional undertones or unnecessary inflections. While this is subject is bias, I strongly believe you should never over-expose yourself or leave yourself vulnerable by being over-emotional. As hard as this one may be, try never ever taking things to heart and just flow with things as they come and go.
Similarly, never yell or scream, even if someone is doing the most to drive you nuts! By keeping your cool, that’s how you retain your power. A composed person is a powerful person. In situations that require the speaker to remain composed or where emotions need to be minimized, speaking in a monotone voice can help create a sense of tranquility and emotional detachment.
However, you need to read the environments in which you use monotones. Monotones may come across as robotic, lack enthusiasm, or make you appear disinterested. While this is great to apply in formal settings (or even in some cases, meeting people for the first time), you want to ensure that this isn’t the same tone you’d use if someone’s taking you out on a date!
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🔹🔹🔹 Learn to play Naive / Damsel-in-Distress (huge success rate with ladies) 🔹🔹🔹
I was recently discussing the series, Merlin, with a good friend (Hey Glenn), and he so happened to mention that he found one of the characters, Gwen, very naive. And I countered this statement by also telling him that the same Gwen rose from servant status to queen status! For my readers who haven’t watched Merlin, Gwen happens to be a servant girl who works for the king’s ward/daughter during King Uther’s reign. She and the prince, Arthur, fall in love, and Arthur marries her after his father’s death, raising her rank to Queen of Camelot.
I have however, noticed, a trend, just from my observations that naive characters often end up getting what they want or even more than they thought possible. Even in real life! These characters are often perceived with some sort of sincerity and genuineness that makes them noticed by “the big fish” really fast! However, this is not something that you could activate or learn to do just immediately. It’s a trait which for some, could take years to learn, while for others, days. For others, it’s just who they are, and this comes naturally for them.
I strongly believe in changing and adapting (in the right ways, of course) if it helps you move a few steps faster and accelerate in life. Please do not in any way confuse this with pretence, because at the end of it all, your character will always outshine your ability to play naive. Playing naive also comes with its own drawbacks that may not make people with a strong ego so comfortable, so I’d definitely recommend shooting a comment below should you have further questions about this, or subscribing to my YouTube Channel because I will talk about this in depth once I start actively posting. (I’m seriously getting on YouTube next year guys, this time for real for real!😃)
🔹🔹 Practice and master the arts of Light and Dark Energy (Exclusive tip for ladies!) 🔹🔹
Ladies, do you know what kind of energy you embody?
Light Feminines (carry Light Energy) are usually warm, gentle, angelic, loving, delicate, carry this beautiful aura that attracts everyone to them like a magnet, highly in tune with their emotions and have welcoming energy. This would be an ambitious extrovert.
Dark Feminines (carry Dark Energy), on the other hand, are described as powerful, magnetic, seductive, passionate, mysterious, quiet, always levelling up, have strong boundaries, and high self respect. This is a typical ambitious introvert.
While most women are often either of these two energies, a truly elegant woman is one who masters the art of both. As a woman, you need to be able to switch to either energy depending on the situation, and in any environment… even in formal settings! Honestly, mastering both energies can help you get anything you want faaast… and while this is a power women use to attract, it works best when combined with another power, such as manifestation, or law of attraction.
I have tried this concurrently with both manifestation and law of attraction, and it’s worked just fine. Like habit number 4 above, this is something that comes naturally for some, while for others, it might take years before finally figuring it out. Since women are different, lots of research is required to achieve an individual perfect balance.
Which of these habits are you starting soon? Let me know in the comments!
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